My Mom Doesn’t Celebrate Mother’s Day

You shouldn’t need a special day to tell your mother you love her, but it would have been nice

I’ve never given my mom a card or flowers on Mother’s Day. Sure, I have at other times throughout the year, but no special days or her birthday or Christmas. The only special day mom and dad celebrate is their wedding anniversary, which I find kind of strange and random.

My parents are Jehovah’s Witnesses, and they don’t have special days, except the memorial of Jesus’ death, and their wedding anniversary.

It’s been so long since I have read any Witness literature and I have forgotten the reasons behind forgoing each holiday, so let’s look them up online:

Birthdays

“Jehovah’s Witnesses do not celebrate birthdays because we believe that such celebrations displease God. Although the Bible does not explicitly forbid celebrating birthdays, it does help us to reason on key features of these events and understand God’s view of them.”

According to JW.org, birthdays:

1. Have pagan roots

2. Are not celebrated by early Christians

3. The Bible never refers to a “servant of God” celebrating a birthday

4. Only one event is supposed to be celebrated and that is the death of Jesus Christ

But, Why Anniversaries, Weddings, and Funerals?

So if the pagan argument is to hold any water, you have to wonder why they allow Christians to wear wedding rings when the practice was originated by pagans. Most holidays and events have pagan roots, as do most of the celebrations, (although the Witnesses seem to think wedding anniversaries don’t stem from pagan origins — The Watchtower, December 1, 1971, p. 735).

The internet is a horrible place to find information because even though they have their own website, it doesn’t hold the thousands of pages of information from their literature that card-carrying Witnesses have access to, and unfortunately, there are way too many alternate sources of information that witnesses deem “apostate,” and will ignore.

Mother’s Day?

Most of the issues with witnesses can be boiled down easily: Are the holidays pagan, do they glorify God, and does the bible tell you to celebrate it?

Does Mother’s Day have Pagan roots?Mother’s Day dates back to ancient cultures in Greece and Rome. In both cultures, mother goddesses (Queen of Heaven). were worshipped during the springtime with religious festivals. The ancient Greeks paid tribute to the powerful goddess Rhea, the wife of Cronus, known as the Mother of the Gods (Queen of Heaven). Similarly, evidence of a three-day Roman festival in Mid-March called Hilaria, to honor the Roman goddess Magna Mater, or Great Mother dates back to 250 BCE.”

So, yes, that could be a reason.

Does the bible tell you to celebrate it? As far as witnesses are concerned, as long as the new testament tells you to, it’s okay, but the bible never said to celebrate a day for your mother or father.

Often, they pick and choose what to believe from the Old Testament. For example, the bible says you can beat your slaves, murder, rape, and it’s okay for God to kill a planet full of people, but when confronted with that fact, they often say “but that was in the Old Testament!”

But when asked why they disprove homosexuality, they say because the bible says it is bad. But, Jesus never said that, it was only mostly in the Old Testament. (Leviticus 18:22)

Is it all the bible, or do you cherry-pick your manual for life?

Does Mother’s Day glorify god? It doesn’t, but what is the harm in showing your parents love? Why is it okay to glorify an anniversary of a pagan wedding event that doesn’t glorify God, but not okay to celebrate a mother and father’s love?

It just seems senseless that a Witness child cannot have a special day to show his mother how he feels. I struggled as a youngster with the ideas the Witnesses tried to force-feed me, and always felt horrible that I couldn’t bring my mother a card full of crayon drawings that I made in school to show her my love.

Surely a god of love would approve of showing love to the most important people in your life?

My Issues With The Jehovah’s Witnesses

I spent most of my young life becoming indoctrinated by the Witnesses, but as I got older and started thinking critically, I couldn’t suspend my disbelief. I was told I didn’t have enough faith because I couldn’t just “go along” with the teachings in the literature. I was threatened with being branded an apostate and losing my family if I ever tried to find out the real truth about the origins of the Witnesses, not just the “truth” they fed us.

I was never supposed to have my own mind; I was supposed to take on the mind of the other Witnesses and devote my life to their version of god and the bible, and never try to learn anything about the thousands of other versions of the same religion.

The pull of the witnesses is so strong, that later in life, in a moment of weakness, I went back to them, after decades of being away. But, by then I had an education, and my mind was not the weak material they love to mold.

I couldn’t believe anything they were trying to make me believe, and I couldn’t bring myself to try to preach to others about the “truth that will set you free!”

I don’t believe in any god or gods or subscribe to any religion or faith. I live my life by the morals I have developed with my own experience, and I don’t pass responsibility for my shortcomings and mistakes on some higher power.

I take responsibility for my life and I am not waiting for Armageddon or heaven or paradise to be a good person.

I am teaching my kids to be students of humanity and history and to develop their own belief system, not a religion based on fables made up by men trying to scare the population into submission.

I wish I could give my Mom some flowers, but I gave them instead to my Mother-in-law. I’ll keep telling my mom and dad I love them on other days but will keep wishing there would be a special day their religion would agree with.

I guess I will always be wishing.

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