Are you frustrated because you are not doing as well as you should be on Medium? Do you always check your stats to see how your stories are performing? Are you upset because you are not getting curated?
Slow down, my friend!
It’s time you started looking at the long game and stopped expecting everything to happen overnight. Remember you were never promised anything when you started this journey.
I made some rules when I first began publishing on Medium, and I still follow them to this day.
- I promised I won’t follow everyone because they follow me. I promised to be picky about who I follow so that my feed is only talented writers who add joy and value to my life.
- I didn’t want to stress about followers. Everybody grows at a different rate. The fact that I’m not following everyone is one of the reasons I gain slow. I’ve been writing on Medium since October 2018, and I have a little over 1k followers. For me, it’s fine, because the follower count means very little if no one is engaging with you. I would rather have a small number of rabid fans.
- I promised I wouldn’t obsess about stats. I broke this rule many times, but right now, I am in a place where I don’t need to obsess, and I am enjoying it.
- I said I was going to take this day-by-day, but make goals for the long run. I hoped I would be successful overnight, but if not, it would be okay. I wasn’t. I promised I would have patience and I have. Patience, like any human, is a hard thing to practice. We want everything now. But I knew the best thing I could do is settle in for a long game of Monopoly.
I overthink everything as it is. I want to be in this game for a long time, so it’s in my best interest to pace myself for the long run.
But that is me. What about you?
You are doing a wonderful job so far. You’ve been writing and publishing a much as you can. You’ve been searching out and reading the work of many different writers on Medium and following them. You’ve been clapping and commenting when something you read makes an impact on you.
There’s a difference in growing and growing on purpose. If you want to do this Medium thing right, you have to take your time.
Think about the things you’ve rushed in the past and how they turned out. For me, I always rushed when I started a new blog. I’d spend the first few weeks in a frenzy, trying to make it the best blog ever to take up space on the internet. Then what happened? I forgot about it. I’d lose interest when nobody came to visit right away.
What is the definition of insanity? Doing the same things over and over and expecting a different result.
How many stories have you read from successful writers here on Medium? How many said they were successful overnight? A few outliers? Most writers grow slower. They spend the first few months developing good habits. Then they get to a point where growth happens quick. We haven’t reached that point yet.
What are a few things you’ve stuck to in your life?
I was a damn good web designer back in the day. As I was gaining knowledge in the industry, I had purpose. I wanted to be the best! What else? Writing. I’ve stuck with writing my whole life. Now that I am getting serious, I am getting more confident.
How hard was it the first time to hit publish? How hard is it now? Keep at it. You will get better, and people will notice. You have to put in time and effort. It’s hard to keep jumping around from interest to interest. You always hope that finally, you will find one thing you were meant to do.
I know I did.
It’s time to put a stake in the ground and defend it. It’s time to stick to something and be the best you can be. Wouldn’t you like to finally say that you found what you are supposed to do? Wouldn’t you like to be able to say you are making money doing something you love? Wouldn’t you like to say you don’t have to live check-to-check anymore?
How much pride does it give you when someone comments on how much they like your work? It feels pretty damn good, doesn’t it? Don’t you want to be so amazing at writing that all you hear is applause?
I’m not trying to be hard on you.
It’s time to make a stand and make a difference. It’s time we all could say we are successful. It’s time to shine!
A pep talk
These pep talks are something I give myself all the time. They help me to keep going, day after day, even when I’m not feeling my best. The past few weeks have been a challenge for me, but I know if I am going to get anywhere in life, I have to push. I can’t give up when things get tough.
I thought you needed a pep talk.
I hope if you are a lot like me you remember to have patience. Nothing good ever comes easy. It takes hard work. You have to put in the time.
I wonder if those of you that have been on the same journey feel some of the same emotions as I do?
Don’t you think a little patience will do you some good?
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Jason Weiland is a writer, blogger, vlogger, and mental health advocate living a dream life in far-away destinations he only dreamed of as a kid. He talks about difficult issues but has never lost his sense of humor or willingness to understand others and help when he can.
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