It seems you went into reading my essay with expectations. I did not write this to talk about issues, I only wanted to tell my story of meeting a woman much younger than I and building a happy life.
I addressed that it was thoughtless and selfish of me to think a woman from another country would want a “project man.” I know that thinking is wrong and I regret it. But, despite my idiocy, I found someone who loved me and was willing to work with the many issues I had. I was a mess, but so was she. We both still are messy.
But we are in this life together.
I am sorry I didn’t address your expectations, but as I told someone else, maybe you could write about it and do a better job. Drop the link, I would love to read!