Is It Necessary to Have Friends in Real Life?

Because I don’t and I’m perfectly fine

Jason Weiland
5 min readApr 21, 2019

Do you have friends in real life? Do you have a best friend?

I ask because many people don’t and we’re wondering what the big deal is? Why do we surround ourselves with people all the time? Who told us that to be a normal human being you had to have lots of friends?

As I get older, I find the need to have friends lessens every day. My life is simple. I work from home, as does my wife. My wife and I spend all our time together, along with our daughter. My family fulfills my need for human companionship.

I find I don’t want anyone else in my life. Trying to please others is not something that interests me. It would add complexity that I don’t want.

I’ve tried to be friends with different people, but I’m always disappointed. I am the kind of person who gives of myself without expecting a return. Most people I run into aren’t like that. They are always expecting. They feel entitled to certain things based only on the code of friendship.

I’m tired of games.

Can’t we all be Facebook friends?

I do have friends online. I have a lot of them. Most of the people I call friends are writers like myself. We are a…

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