Is It Necessary to Have Friends in Real Life?
Because I don’t and I’m perfectly fine
Do you have friends in real life? Do you have a best friend?
I ask because many people don’t and we’re wondering what the big deal is? Why do we surround ourselves with people all the time? Who told us that to be a normal human being you had to have lots of friends?
As I get older, I find the need to have friends lessens every day. My life is simple. I work from home, as does my wife. My wife and I spend all our time together, along with our daughter. My family fulfills my need for human companionship.
I find I don’t want anyone else in my life. Trying to please others is not something that interests me. It would add complexity that I don’t want.
I’ve tried to be friends with different people, but I’m always disappointed. I am the kind of person who gives of myself without expecting a return. Most people I run into aren’t like that. They are always expecting. They feel entitled to certain things based only on the code of friendship.
I’m tired of games.
Can’t we all be Facebook friends?
I do have friends online. I have a lot of them. Most of the people I call friends are writers like myself. We are a reclusive lot who spend countless hours hunched over a keyboard creating stories. We have little stomach for bullshit.
We all come together so well because we understand each other’s needs and wants. Committing to having friends in real life (IRL) requires more from us than we want to give away. We all have our issues, and we don’t want to add other baggage to our own.
What’s wrong with online friends?
When I’m depressed and feeling down, I share my feelings in a post. My friends read it and support me in my time of need. When they are down, I do the same. Some even take it a step further and chat with me on Messenger.
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