How Can I Help?

Four simple words that will change my life — and yours

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I’ve been thinking about my life again. Questions bounce around in my head, and I chase them, first grasping one, then grabbing another. I’m not any closer to solid answers, but I’ve learned a few interesting things about myself.

  • Have I been selfish? Yes.
  • Did I give without expectation? No.
  • Did I always look for the best in people? No.
  • Did I work my fingers to the bone and eat a lot of shit? Yes.
  • Have I paid my dues? No.
  • Do I feel entitled to be a success? No. But I know I will be successful. I know it!

Here is what I know

Before I do any heavy planning, it’s always good for me to take stock of where I am. I did this last night. I was lying flat on the bed, migraine pounding my head. Gary Vee was on, telling me to live my life so I wouldn’t have regrets when I am old. Ideas and thoughts are coming to me and I was typing them into my drafts on Medium.

Here is what I wrote:

  • I don’t want to sell a product.
  • I don’t want to create a course.
  • I don’t want to suggest affiliate offers.
  • I don’t want you to click on my ad.
  • I don’t want you to give me your email address in exchange for a checklist. If you give me your email address, it should be because something I said helped you and you want to hear more. I want to know that I add value to your life.
  • I don’t want to be your life coach. I will never ask you to take my personal assessment.

I’m not saying these things are bad. You all can do what you want. I don’t want to do them.

I only want to ask one thing: What can I do to help you?

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This is me asking! (Photo by Alexei Scutari on Unsplash)

How can I help?

Yes, I’m serious. I don’t want anything from you. If you need something — ask! If I can, I will help without expectation of repayment.

I have zero fucks to give.

I don’t care if you take my help and then turn around and call me an asshole.

How can I help?

I don’t care if the help I give makes you a millionaire. I hope it does. I don’t care if you never speak to me again.

I don’t give a fuck. When you speak of me, be kind.

How can I help?

  • I don’t have any money, so don’t ask. But I might be able to help you earn some.
  • I don’t have a lot of time, but I do have three hours a day. What can I do in that time that will make your life easier?
  • I know how to build blogs. I can design a website. I know Photoshop and Canva. I can make Instagram graphics or a simple logo. Will that help you?
  • I know about content and how to be a good writer. I am still learning myself, but I may have some insight that can help.
  • I improved from a psychotic shut-in to a well-balanced, fulfilled, and happy person. Can my experience help you battle your mental illness?
  • I am an idea man. Can I give you an idea that will make you a million dollars?

How can I help?

I don’t have any expectations. I don’t give a fuck. Nobody may take me up on my offer. 100 people might. If 100 people need help, I will help whomever I can myself, and find help for the ones that are left.

I won’t leave you hanging. I won’t ignore you.

Why am I doing this?

I don’t know what I have to do to be successful. I do know what I don’t want to do. I don’t want to hard-sell. I don’t want to bribe. I don’t want someone’s email address if they are only giving it for a freebie. I don’t want to put up ads on my blog. I don’t want to sell you a course teaching you how to write better.

As I said, I’ve busted my ass my whole life. I ate a ton of shit trying to make a living. I did work I’m ashamed of, and I did things to get ahead I’m not proud of.

Do you know what I haven’t done? I haven’t paid my dues. I haven’t earned the privilege of being successful.

Sure, I could do what most people do and add “entrepreneur” to the end of my Instagram profile (I’ve done it before). But that wouldn’t make me a successful entrepreneur.

I need to pay my dues and help people without expectation.

How can I help?

Yesterday, Gary Vaynerchuk said in a video on YouTube that if you help people expecting something in return, you are a piece of shit.

I don’t want to be shit.

I want to help.

How can I help you?

I’m serious…Leave a comment!

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