Happy is a Myth — Be Fulfilled

Why does everyone always tell us we need to be successful and happy?

Jason Weiland
8 min readOct 25, 2019


We all know life is complicated, and there are many times we stop and ask ourselves, “What’s going on?” Sometimes, it all seems like a game we are losing, or a journey, once started, that never ends.

How often do we wonder why our life didn’t turn out as we planned in those visions we had when we were innocent children? We might be feeling stuck and wondering why all our dreams never materialized.

Many of us are still trapped in a dead-end job, working 40, 50, even 60 hours a week for a check that barely lasts until you get the next one. Maybe we are lonely and wonder why we haven’t met anyone special. Are we unhealthy and wish we could change our habits? Are we stuck in a place we don’t want to live, surrounded by a mass of people, noise, and pollution — dreaming of sitting on the beach somewhere tropical?

Are we still doing the same things, day in and day out, hoping your life will change by itself?

Tell me if this sounds like us:

We are afraid to leave the job we hate because we think we can’t find anything better. We have bills, student loans, credit card debt, and surprise — we have to eat! We haven’t met anyone special because we are too busy or don’t feel like we are wealthy enough, good-looking enough, or have anything to offer. We haven’t started to eat healthier because we need to buy that book, or join the gym next week, or shop for better food. We don’t live where we want because we live in fear of the unknown. We are stuck and blocked because we are afraid to take action because we are constantly thinking of the worst-case scenario.

I have good news and bad news.

The good news is we are not alone! Many of us feel the same way, and it’s normal to find ourselves in this situation. But the bad news is it might be normal, but it’s not okay! Being stuck and staying that way is no one’s fault but our own.

Do we want a better career or our own business? Do we want love and companionship? Do we say we don’t want to be unhealthy and fat? Do we keep telling ourselves that we will travel next year when things are better?



Jason Weiland

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